So Mendelssohn’s wedding march echoed, and a ring appeared on the ring finger? Watch out! You are in a risk zone, whose name is overweight. Of course, this does not mean that you do not need to get married, nor that you need to urgently file a divorce, if you have already created your own "cell of society." But to understand the reasons why couples tend to gain weight in marriage, of course, is necessary. Recognizing the enemy by sight, telling those extra pounds a confident “no” will be much easier!
Where the thread, there and the needle
After marriage, people begin to spend more time together. Moreover, the habits of one partner can affect the behavior of another. It would seem that this is bad? But one thing is a joint walk or training in the gym, another is time watching TV with popcorn or, worse, chips and beer.
A study published in Obesity magazine found that people who married before the age of 20 were more likely to gain weight than their lonely peers. Over the first 5 years of a joint, women gained about 10 kg and men 13 kg. The reason for this is food for the company and the formation of habits under the influence of a partner. It is interesting that couples who lived together, but did not have a stamp in their passports, also “overgrew” excess weight, but in much smaller quantities. This does not mean that everyone should start living without formalizing relations, but it would be nice to reconsider their habits.
Craving for experiments and the desire to surprise
When marrying, most women believe that the path to a man’s heart lies through his stomach. And so they conduct experiments in the kitchen, starting to invent all kinds of mouth-watering dishes that are really tasty, but often more caloric and contain a lot of fat. Many people do not even realize how much weight they have gained until they get on the scales. Until then, they enjoy the taste of amazing dishes, lovingly prepared by a partner.
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It is proved that after marriage, women begin to drink alcohol more often. Men also do not lag behind companions of life. A glass of wine seems natural during a romantic evening or dinner together. But even a moderate amount of alcohol increases cravings for fatty and salty foods. Such findings are contained in a study published in the journal Appetite.
Love is to blame
Cooling in a relationship leads to self-doubt and attractiveness for a partner, as well as to suspicions that the spouse has switched to someone else. As a result, we find ourselves in a vicious circle, where there is no place for love, but there is disappointment, sadness, depression and, of course, a lot of food – it is logical that you want to "eat" all the negative emotions. And there, and overweight will not keep you waiting. Although in fact, everything can be solved with a heart-to-heart talk. And, perhaps, as a result, it turns out that many problems are simply far-fetched.
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Researchers from Southern Methodological University in Dallas (Texas, USA) came to the conclusion that the very state of falling in love can also cause overweight. According to scientists, when spouses love each other and are happy in marriage, they have a growing sense of security and safety, and this, in turn, provokes a set of extra pounds.
Women experience countless hormonal surges during their lives – critical days, pregnancy, breastfeeding – and they often provoke the appearance of excess weight.
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Men, too, may face similar problems, for example, gaining weight after giving birth. This is evidenced by a study published in the journal Social Science & Medicine. But the wife’s pregnancy, according to the same scientific work, does not affect the man’s weight in any way – they begin to grow fat after they become happy fathers.
Sleep in each other's arms
According to a study published in the journal Sleep, joint sleep sometimes triggers the process of gaining extra pounds. Moreover, most often women face such a problem – their sleep is more sensitive and they may suffer from insomnia, for example, due to the snoring of the spouse. Lack of sleep, in turn, increases the risk of weight gain, as this affects hormones that regulate hunger and appetite.
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There are many myths associated with the causes that cause excess weight that occurs after marriage. One of them – extra pounds on the waist and hips appear due to regular sex life. However, to date, there is no research to prove this. Therefore, we can say with confidence – frequent intimate relationships do not affect weight.
A sudden desire to change externally for the better is not always perceived adequately. When one of the partners pulls himself together and begins to lose weight, a feeling of anxiety arises in his life partner – he thinks that the relationship is at risk. The result can be jealousy, suspicions of infidelity, fear of losing a loved one, etc. And in response, the partner, often unconsciously, begins to sabotage another's attempts to build. Various tricks are used – important urgent matters coincide with the time of training, the food suddenly becomes high-calorie and insanely appetizing, often surprises are arranged in the form of a romantic dinner with a bottle of wine and delicious food – the options can be continued indefinitely.
Changes in the appearance of one of the spouses for the worse also do not always please the second partner. And then the most terrible weapon is used – criticism. She, as you know, often does not completely motivate to accomplish, but gives the opposite effect – leads to stress and kills the desire to change for the better. Confirmation of this can be found in a study published in the journal Personal Relationships. According to this scientific study, women who were criticized by spouses gained weight more often and faster than those whose partners, in spite of everything, sang their beauty.
Tatyana Butskaya, head of the All-Russian public movement “Council of Mothers”, author of the books “Pregnancy. Short film 9 months long ”and“ Eat for two. All About Maternity Nutrition »
According to statistics, every second Russian is overweight. Most often, in 75% of cases, weight problems arise due to overeating. Calories obtained do not correspond to energy consumption – hence the extra pounds. They have to pay for not only a presentable appearance, but also a life expectancy. Average fullness shortens life by 3-5 years, and severe obesity by 10-15.
Experts draw attention to the fact that weight gain begins especially actively after marriage, so I would like to dwell on the possible reasons for this.
As soon as a young wife enters the kitchen as a mistress, she begins to demonstrate her culinary talents. Borsch, hodgepodge, lagmans, French meat, chicken Kiev, foie gras and dessert to boot. Within a month after tasting these culinary masterpieces, both spouses run the risk of gaining a few extra kilos. And this is just the beginning!
In marriage, many have the habit of eating one after another. And when children are born, also after them.
When the “cute ones scold,” they try to seize up stress. Sweets are used – suppliers of “hormones of happiness”, which quickly settle on their sides with excess fat.
Movement activity decreases. After gaining the second half, the desire to go somewhere or run away gradually disappears. For fitness and hiking in the mountains or the forest, many prefer a sofa rest. The birth of children, as a rule, finally puts an end to attempts to engage in their physical form.
Most often, weight problems occur in women. No, not due to the fact that they were “stoned” after marriage and “lazy”. Women genetically have more adipose tissue than men. In addition, the weaker sex regularly experiences hormonal shakes associated with pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding. That is why it is especially difficult to maintain a stable weight for the beautiful half of humanity.
The social status of a woman is more urged to take care of herself. And men – on the contrary. Studies show that a woman, wanting to make a career, controls her appearance, and a man considers this superfluous.
Age also makes itself felt. I am talking about the time when the couple celebrate at least a silver wedding. After 50 years, the metabolism slows down significantly, so the caloric value of food should be reduced by 10%. However, many are not even aware of this recommendation. They continue to eat, as they are used to, consume a lot of animal fats, simple carbohydrates and do not have fasting days.
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